Wednesday, March 11, 2015

What we have been doing....

     It's been awhile since I posted. (Understatement.) This has been a long year in some ways and also fast and chaotic year. Adjusting to our adoption of an older child with Down syndrome has been, as expected, hard. June has adjusted like a champ, but we are slower. It is so far from the natural course of things to add a 7 year old with grown up teeth to your family. I missed having the bonding time with Marcus and Eli in the womb that I had with Ruth and Byron. But losing that time in the womb and getting a snuggly newborn is nothing at all like the difficulty of having a school age child plopped into your life.

    The fact that it's hard doesn't mean that we regret our most recent adoption. Hard things are often the best things for us. But, I refuse to paint a sunshiney rainbow-filled picture of what older child adoption looks like because I know there are so many moms going through the same difficulty out there. We will get there, someday, to the place where we feel like all the members of our family "have always been here." I believe it. However, we are not there yet, and that can be emotionally exhausting. If you have wondered what has happened to us, or feel like we fell off the map... we did. It pretty much takes every bit of energy we have to invest in our marriage and our children at this time. I am okay with that, but it is isolating simply by virtue of the path God has led us down. It is not an easy one and it can be so lonely.

    I try my best to be honest, not in hopes of sympathy, but in a desire to let other moms walking similar paths know that they are not crazy and that they are not alone.  If you are a mom who feels like I do, please contact me! Yes, I know we chose this -- and yet, we still must live and feel the bumps along the way. The choosing doesn't make us exempt from the varied (and strong) emotions of walking the uncommon path of older child and special needs adoption.

All that said, life has been moving along and I know that our family members (hello Auntie Corrie!) would just like to see some photos of the kids. So, I will happily oblige. We had many highlights of our year... we try to not let having 5 kids stop us from having some fun!


 
 June's first day of school EVER.


 Halloween with neighbors



White Sands National Monument

Joshua Tree National Park 


More Joshua Tree. We camped in our pop up. Yes, I know, we are brave!



 Legoland


We camped at the beach, too!



Then, we were tired. So we took a LOVELY respite trip where only Andrew and I were invited.



Friday, June 6, 2014

Fake Birthday



Since Byron's class celebrates birthdays with special snacks from home and Byron and others have summer birthdays, his teacher allowed us to bring in a snack for him and he got to celebrate today. We created quite the distraction when walking in at story time (oops!) and the gang was excited to eat at Byron's table with him. In the name of keeping it real, I realized when we were all done and walking to the car that I had forgotten to bring Ruth's lunch as I had promised when I didn't have time to make it this morning. We ran over to the late lunch drop off area and left her juice boxes, chips and fruit snacks for lunch. It felt like a mom-fail but I am pretty sure she will be ecstatic when she gets home to have gotten such junk food for lunch! Ha ha.

Sunday, May 25, 2014

The best day ever!

Byron proclaimed yesterday the best day ever. He learned to kayak up and down the beach of the St. Croix all by himself. You can see our friends and us here taking kids on the kayak. It was amazing weather and so nice to be outside. We also got our first family photo taken since June arrived home. It only took us 7 weeks!








The triplets

Aka the three stooges, three musketeers, three amigos... we could go on. These three are quite the crew. Almost the same height, similar developmentally, three different ages and hair types. June and Marcus are almost like long lost twins. Marcus wants to do everything with June. For the first 6 weeks June was home, Eli was grouchy every waking hour. He was feeling displaced though I kept assuring him that he was still the baby of the family! After that 6 weeks, Eli turned a major corner and most of his grouchiness left, for which we were ALL THANKFUL!









Easter Egg hunt

Pretty much everything is a first for June at this point. She has been taking it all in stride. It helps that she can just watch what her siblings are doing and she does it, too, no matter how crazy it seems!




Home

Going back and catching up on some major events since we got home from China. These are from the day June met her siblings.






Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Come on ride the train.....

One of the best decisions we made was to use the metro in Guangzhou. You can find a great website/app here. It doesn't require internet to use it while in country. Riding the metro, especially to get back and forth from the Garden to the China hotel is the way to go. We felt very comfortable, even at 9 pm, because you literally walk out the hotel doors and straight into the metro station at both hotels. The metro is very busy at all the hours we rode (9 am-9pm) and that also helped us feel safe. Dorothy and I decided we'd do a photo tutorial in hopes that some other families would be emboldened to use the metro and save some cash! (at $1 a ticket, it beats a cab or driver by a ton)

Step 1. Walk out your hotel and down into the metro. You will see ticketing machines. They only accept relatively crispy 5 or 10 yuan bills or 1 yuan coins.  Most places you want to go will cost 5-7 yuan per person.


Step 2: Choose English on the touchscreen and look on the map for your final stop. We were headed to Zhongshanba, where there are a lot of children's clothing malls. Then to the right of the screen you can choose how many tickets you want. It will calculate your cost. 



(Yuexiu park is our starting point from Marriott China Hotel on Blue Line 2. To go to either the Children's Markets or the Garden, you will be going North to the Red Line 5 and changing trains at Guangzhou Railway Station.)


(below is your instruction cheat sheet on machine) 

Step 3: insert $ and gather change and green tokens at bottom of machine. 


Step 4: scan your green token on top of turnstyle. and have the most responsible adult  KEEP it until you arrive at your destination.

Step 5: head down the MASSIVE escalator, which will have the color of the metro line you are boarding. Remember not to do any karate with other passengers (see photo below)



Step 6. When you reach the bottom of the escalator, you will know which side to board by knowing what stop you need to change trains to reach your final destination (in our case, it was the Guangzhou Railway Station). The direction the train is going is clear by the starting point on the map above the boarding doors (Yuexiu Park- location of Marriott China Hotel) and the bold-faced stops to come, whether it was to right or left of original stop. 
You are supposed to wait to the side and wait until people exit to board (see yellow arrows) but this is China and everyone just pushes everyone else and gets where they are going. 

When you are on the train, you can track your progress by watching the blinking lights. 


 Step 7: Changing trains is not too bad. You will get off at your change stop and see signs for how to get to the other metro line. In our case there were clear arrows to get to Red Line 5. You will not need your token at this stop. Just follow the arrows up and down stairs and escalators until you get to another set of trains.



Step 8: remember to look at the signs above the trains in bold to see which direction the train is going again. At Guangzhou Railway Station, you can take one train to the Garden (Taojin stop), or the other train to the Children's clothing markets (Zhongshanba stop). 


















 Step 9: once you arrive at your destination, often you will be able to determine which door (Letters A, B, C, D) to exit by reading this sign. Each exit takes you to a different side of the street. If you end up at the wrong one, it's not a huge deal. You just cross the street above ground. Or you can come back into station and take the other exit. You won't need to enter the paid zone to do this. 

 Step 10: as you exit, deposit your green token in the slot and walk through. Congrats! You did it!








List of useful stops: 
- Yuexiu Park (China Marriott Hotel) Blue Line 2
- Taojin (Garden Hotel) Red Line 5
- Chen Clan Academy (beautiful historic home/museum) Yellow Line 1
- Airport South (GZ airport) Orange Line 3 
- Hanxi Changlong (Chimelong Safari Park shuttle bus) Orange Line 3
-Zhongshanba (street full of children's markets within 5 blocks) Red Line 5

Here is a list of places to explore in GZ with their corresponding stations.